A self-described introvert, Jane Grenneman, online community introvert, darling, and author of the upcoming book “Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World,” says introverts are not antisocial but selective. are social. Introverts can create a sense of belonging by “looking for passion rather than friends,” says Susan Cain, author of “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.”, Refutation of the extraverted ideal. Do something that interests you, she said, and “like-minded friends will come.”
Introverts can summon the resolve to initiate plans by telling themselves that they are “giving the gift of going first,” Ms. Granman said. “Send texts, ask questions or plan dates. You might be surprised by how much the other person appreciates your accessibility.
One way Ms. Granman does this is by purchasing two tickets a few months in advance for any show or event that catches her eye. When the incident happened, she said, “Having the extra ticket puts pressure on me, in a good way, to reach out to my network because I want someone to go with me and I don’t want the ticket to go to me.” Useless.” Most people are excited to be offered tickets, she said, and almost always accept.
Here’s a bonus exercise for today: If you receive an invitation this week, say yes when you might normally say no.
Have you put anything social on the calendar this week? tell us in the comments,
From The Friendship Files: Uzma, Liz, David and Scott
Each day of Well’s 7-Day Happiness Challenge, we’ll be sharing stories of meaningful friendships gathered from readers across the country. We would love to hear from you. submit your friendship story,
Uzma’s three best friends – Liz, David and Scott – have been at the center of her life for over two decades, offering each other “unconditional love”. Her father died when she was in college and she became estranged from her mother. “This friendship has been my chosen family,” she said. “Whatever matters to one of us matters to all of us.”
Uzma, 37, first met Liz in high school in North Carolina. Despite their different backgrounds—Liz is the daughter of Christian ministers; Uzma is Muslim, first generation American whose parents are from Burma and India – the pair became inseparable. They had sleepovers every weekend and joined each other on family vacations and holidays. Uzma said, “Liz learned Hindi by staying with my family.”
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